The Better Answer Through the Pain

I’m learning, my answer may not be the best one.

I prayed for the lives of my unborn children. That I could hold each one. That we would have time to get to know each other. That we would laugh and play and grow together.

I prayed for my sweet daughter. That she would think like others her age. That we would share mother-daughter conversations deep into the night. That I would be able to teach her how to bake cookies and make candy and choose wisely.

I prayed for easy living. That I’d have many things to enjoy and more to give away. That I’d have few troubles. That my life would go as I planned.

I prayed for so many things. None of them included pain.

And God heard. He answered. But His answer wasn’t what I wanted to hear … It was better! 


Instead of answering with more time on this earth to spend with those tiny little lives, He blessed me with an eternity with them and a message of hope. 

Instead of answering with a daughter who is like everyone else, He gifted me with a priceless treasure that has no compare and a transformed heart.

Instead of answering with a life of my making, He ordained me with amazing grace, unfathomable love, and a future beyond compare.

You see God’s not in the business of giving us what we want;  God’s plan is to give us what is best for us—not for the immediate, but for the long haul. And it will likely involve some pain.

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I have to admit, I still usually pray for what I want, but God often answers with something far better—His plan!

And as I wait for His answer (usually impatiently), I’m getting better at holding onto His promise …

“For I know the plans I have for you”—this is the Lord’s declaration—“plans for your welfare, not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” (Jeremiah 29:11)

… and wait for His perfect timing.

It’s not easy. No one likes to experience pain. And sometimes there seems to be no end in sight to the oppressive life we are living. We want an answer now—and one that relieves our misery, not extends it.

But hold on, Dear One, the Lord is there. Right with you. He will give you the strength to persevere. And believe it or not, in the end, His answer—His best for you—will far exceed anything you could ever imagine!

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Reflection: What purpose (if any) do you believe could come from your current painful experience(s)? Have you found purpose in past pain? What has allowed you to persevere? 

This is one of many stories on hope, healing, and finding our voice posted and linked up today on Jo Ann Fore’s blog. They are written by bloggers incredibly excited about Jo Ann’s new book, When A Woman Finds Her Voice: Overcoming Life’s Hurts & Using Your Story to Make a Difference, set to release this month. This week’s topic is on A Purpose for the Pain. 

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Find hope in your real-life struggles. We'll chase it together! I am a wife; mom of 4 (including a young adult daughter with special needs); miscarriage mom of 5; author & follower of Jesus Christ. I write, edit, speak and enjoy everything outdoors.

11 comments on “The Better Answer Through the Pain
  1. Holly Solomon Barrett says:

    This – “God’s plan is to give us what is best for us—not for the immediate, but for the long haul. ” Oh, that I could remember that every day!

  2. Holly Solomon Barrett says:

    This: “God’s plan is to give us what is best for us—not for the immediate, but for the long haul.” Oh that I could remember that every day!

  3. Shanyn says:

    First off – love this post. And yes God listens to our plans, and then shows us His! Often, I think, with a divine smile! Bless you for sharing, love your heart and your voice. (oh and I love the Tweet This – teach me how to do that!)

    • Julie Sunne says:

      I love that He listens first, then answers with what’s best. A good model to emulate in parenting our own children. Tweet This is easy, Shanyn–just go to

  4. Michelle Soto says:

    The Better Answer…what a beautifully appropriate title.
    Reading this, filled my heart with one of my favorite scriptures:
    “He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end.”
    ~ Ecclesiastes 3:11

    Eternity is what is carved in our hearts and its that space that HE prepares us for.
    Thank you for sharing.

    • Julie Sunne says:

      Oh, I do love that verse, Michelle–it speaks volumes!
      “Eternity is what is carved in our hearts and its that space that HE prepares us for.”–Yes, yes!

  5. Cheryl Pelton Lutz says:

    What a blessing to read of His work in the midst of your deep loses.

  6. Great post. I think of my soon to be 92-year-old dad that lives with us and struggles with dementia. At times, I feel like I’m watching him slowly die. Through the pain, however, my earthly dad and my heavenly dad are teaching me about myself and God’s grace. They are both blessing me each day!

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